"I hate divorce," says the GOD of Israel. – Mal 2:16
Plain and simple. God hasn't changed in the few thousand years since He said this to Malachi (Heb 13:8), so what or who has? This is the second in a series of topics I would like to deal with about how people are starting to believe whatever they want to believe and how certain sins are now "acceptable". I already dealt with premarital sex (check out the devo "Drawing the line" in the archives), others I will deal with are abortion and homosexual relationships.
How many professing Christians these days are getting divorced? My church is filled with divorced people, and I?m telling you they may not think it, but when Christians divorce, they hurt the whole body of Christ. If one part of the body is hurting, the whole body suffers. Jesus Himself gave one single legitimate reason for divorce, and that is if one of the partners is unfaithful (check out Matt 5:31-32 and Matt 19:3-9). Jesus says in Matt 5:32 and Matt 19:9 that if you divorce your wife, you cause her to commit adultery, and if another guy marries her, he also commits adultery. And it is here where this devo is going to get ugly: "You know that wicked people will not inherit the kingdom of God, don't you? Stop deceiving yourselves! Sexually immoral people, idolaters, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexuals," 1Cor 6:9. These are not my words. Check the company of adulterers! I am not writing this to try and make people feel guilty, it is my passion that people will stop fooling themselves that the Lord God will dismiss certain sins because it is "so hard" not to do. You are worshipping an idol if you believe that the Lord God almighty will not punish adulterers. If you are married, you are married and it is the promise you make in front of God and I believe the act of sex that binds two people together. "So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, man must never separate." (Matt 19:6)
I wish people can see who horrible divorce is, it destroys people. I can not tell you how many kids I deal with whose lives are devastated as a result of their parents divorcing. We prayed for a 21 year old guy recently who is broken and got into Satanism and he said it all started when his parents divorced. We have kids in our Bible study group who got their into witchcraft, smoking, drinking, drugs, fornication and a lot of other stuff, because that bond that supposed to keep their family tight was shattered and it gave the Devil his change to steal, kill and destroy. I've seen how Satan works and let me tell you that divorce is one of the single most selfish things you can do, especially if you have kids (I actually just deleted a couple of lines of ranting!)
I get so furious, and I feel ashamed at the same time. The church has been keeping quiet long enough. It is against the will of the Lord to divorce. I realize sometimes it is difficult, especially in an abusive relationship. But remember, you chose to marry the guy in first place? Nobody changes that drastically when you marry them. That is why young people should be careful who they marry, and take their time to make the right choice. When a relationship stays together after both parties had to make some personal sacrifices to make it work, you can start thinking about marriage. Marriage is not something to be taken lightly. If things are going rough, I really think the worst is an abusive relationship; trust in God to fix the situation. Go to church, get friends that will support you and keep on praying. I have heard personal testimonies of guys who mistreated their wives and kids and after extensive prayer they got to know Jesus Christ, gave their heart to God and is now the loving fathers they should be. Move out of the house if you must, but do not loose faith!
I kind of know how it must feel, there was a time when my parent's marriage was a little bumpy and my mother took me aside one day and starting talking about divorce. I still remember the feelings that rose up in me ” I couldn't handle it. I thank God that they are still together and worked things out.
I realize for a lot of people reading this, it may be too late, as they already married another person. The grace of God is free for those who admit they sinned and ask His forgiveness. If there are kids involved, be there for them. Admit to them you were wrong and support them. They are confused and will need guidance so that they will not make the same mistake as you.
I actually planned to stop this devo at the previous line, but I'm afraid that I may sound like a judgemental hellfire preacher guy. The fact is God loves you so much, he'll forgive you anything you do. There is nothing you can do that can seperate you from His love, but you need to repent. I am by no means perfect, and have never (nor will ever) claimed to be perfect, but people need to hear the truth of God's Word. God hates sin, He wants to see you through the cleansing blood of Jesus Christ.
In the name of Love