It's easy read them this section of text and don't apply any amount of critical thinking….
It is this kind of stuff that makes people think that the bible is anti-women… blah blah blah… It's just not true. In a time when women were sex objects, temple prostitutes, second class citizens, Christianity gave women rights, demanded respect and care for women. But anyways… onto the text.
It is important from the beginning to say a few things:
(1) this has to do with marriage and has nothing to do with dating
(2) Before getting married you should choose well, don't settle, marry the one who will love and respect you and always consider your best before making decisions.
(3) Submitting to people (guy or girl) is not difficult when you know that they have your best in mind and heart.
(4) Submitting does not mean your words have no value or shouldn't be heard.
Much of this section harkens back to 1 Peter 2:12 "Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us." The women of an unbelieving husband is to treat her husband with honor and respect so as to let her inner light shine out and show the changed heart God has given her so that her husband may see this and be saved. This shows the incredible sway that the wife can have over her husband.
In this incredibly individualist / sex saturated society these next verses can cause quite a stir. I love the truth in them… Beauty is not skin deep… beauty is something within and this is something our society has wholly lost. It makes sense that God's kingdom, often called "the upsidedown kingdom" would stress the importance of inner beauty over outward adornment. Not that makeup or braided hair or jewelry is bad, it just should not define you. Again with marriage in mind, outward beauty only lasts so long… it is the inward beauty of a man or woman that endures so strive for inward beauty. It is this beauty that has made the woman of old so attractive. Inner beauty = timeless, outward beauty = fading away.
ugh… I hate this verse (v. 7) this phrase "weaker partner" I can only assume this is a generality about physical strength (unless it is some of the women at 24 hour fitness YIKES!). Certainly woman are not of a weaker moral, spiritual fiber then men, rather, it is because God has placed, in the order of creation, the husband as head of the home, just as Christ is the head of the church. It is also possible this is a similar reference to 1 Corinthians 12:23 which states "23and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor." In the end the closing statement of this is women are to be treated with honor and respect, period. They are "heirs with you of the gracious gift of life." So men we are to love, admire and respect women in all aspects of life. I feel that God takes this command very seriously as He ends this statement with a consequence for not respecting women, basically a hinderance of your prayers. Now I am not building theology on this, but I find it interesting that the men are given such a clear message… Respect and love your wife and things are good, do not and your prayers will be hindered… Think about it men, MAN UP! Love your lady as you love yourself, be willing to die for her as Christ died for the church. Carry your load in the relationship.
Oh one other piece of advice NEVER, I repeat NEVER bring this up while having an argument.