Drawing the line

One topic that has probably been dealt with over a billion times before is the topic of premarital sex. Oddly enough it is also the topic that Christians are the most confused about: we all know it is wrong, but can we prove it from the Word? A friend once told me that he asked his pastor to prove from Scripture that premarital sex is wrong, but he could not. That freaked me out, as in this devotional I will prove from Scripture that not only is premarital sex wrong, but also every form of premarital sexual foreplay.

I will wait a couple of minutes for you to read the entire Ezekiel 23… Done? OK. This passage is probably a bit shocking if it is the first time you read it. In the passage Samaria and Jerusalem are compared to two young girls. At first they allowed men fondle their breasts. Then it got worse. Throughout the entire passage they are referred to as whores. Plain and simple. It is clear throughout the passage what God thinks of them and how He condemns them. I know this piece is a metaphor for how Samaria and Jerusalem turned against God, but just the way that it is portrayed, gives a clear picture of how God feels about premarital sexual foreplay as well as premarital sex.

Next up: Deut 22:13-21. Bad huh? In the time of Moses, when a girl married a man, and he found out after marriage that she is not a virgin (don’t ask me how they figured THAT out) the law stated that she should be taken to the door of her father’s house and be thrown to death with stones. Verse 21 ” "the men of the town are to take her to the door of her father's house and stone her to death. She acted disgracefully in Israel. She lived like a WHORE while still in her parents' home. Purge the evil from among you." [MSG]. A lot of people will now say "Yes, but we are not under the Law of Moses any more!" True, but we still serve the same God as Moses and the Bible says that He is the same yesterday, today, tomorrow, for eternity (Heb 13:8).

Still, if you won’t believe me, let's look at the New Testament and what Jesus says: Mat 5:28 ” "But I say to you, anyone who stares at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (ISV). Let me put this in simple English. If you (and I'm talking to the guys here) as much as look at a girl and you entertain the idea of having sex with her, it is as good as if you already slept with her. You might think that this is unfair, but it is not. It is a simple principle of keeping your mind clean. Do you know where sin begins? In your head. Look at James 1:13-15. You are tempted by your desires which causes you to sin.

There are various references to sexual immorality in the Bible. In 1 Corinthians 6:13 the Bible clearly states that your body was not created for sexual immorality, but for the Lord. The phrase sexual immorality is for some reason very vague to some people. The King James version uses the word "fornication" (porneia in Greek) in place of sexual immorality in 1 Co 6:13. The Webster’s Dictionary defines fornication as:

1. The incontinence or lewdness [vulgarity, vileness] of unmarried persons, male or female; also, the criminal conversation of a married man with an unmarried woman.
2. Adultery. (Matthew 5)
3. Incest. (1 Corinthians 5)
4. Idolatry; a forsaking of the true God, and worshipping of idols. (2 Chronicles 21 & Rev 19)

The phrase "sexual immorality" (or fornication) encapsulates every single possible sexual sin under the sun, from premarital sex, to premarital foreplay, to adultery, to incest, etc. Check out the following verses on this topic. Note that in a lot of these passages sexual immorality is named alongside the sins of murder, witchcraft, idolatry and even the drinking of blood: Mat 15:19, Mar 7:21, Act 15:20, Act 15:29, Act 21:25, Rom 13:13, 1 Co 6:13, 1 Co 6:18, 1 Co 7:2, Gal 5:19, 1 Th 4:3, 1 Ti 1:10, Rev 9:21.

A lot of people ask: "Ok then, where is the line?" You want a line? Take a magic marker and draw a line around your neck. Everything below that is off limits. Why tempt yourself? If your hormones kick into overdrive you will need an almost immeasurable amount of self-control to stop yourself. Don’t be stupid ” God knows I have. Stopping yourself is like trying to stop freight train going at full speed. That is how we were designed, and that is how we should function. We as humans are sexual beings and sex in marriage is one of the most beautiful things there are, but it turns ugly very easily. 1 Co 6:18 says that we should run from sexual immorality. Don’t try and be brave; you will lose. The Bible is our user manual. It was written by the Creator to show us how we should function. When you depart from the manual, what happens? You get broken, and unfortunately getting fixed takes a lot of time and effort.

Spread the love (…not the lust)
Riaan